Happiness

Characteristics of a Positive Person

Working at a restaurant, I have dealt with countless bad moods from customers, fellow employees, and managers. As someone who is sensitive to how people around me are feeling, it can be easy for me to take on other people’s negative emotions.

While I may not be terrific at every aspect of my job, one thing I truly excel at is positivity. As a server, I have had to handle crises, deal with rude customers, serve the same table for 2 hours and not even receive a tip, and much, much more. However, I receive daily compliments on my attitude. Just two days ago I had two separate tables tell me, “You have the perfect personality for what you are doing. Your attitude will take you far in life.” 

They both said the exact same thing!

Those were huge compliments to me, and I realized that I have armed myself with a mentality that repels negativity from my life, and I am able to maintain a positive mindset even if I have been working for 12 hours straight and dealing with rude customers.

Long story short, here are some of my thoughts on maintaining positivity:

  1. Feel your true emotions – they’re there for a reason. Let yourself feel all the feelings. It may be hard, but it’s healthy for you. If you bottle up your problems, they will explode at the worst times.
  2. Once you have felt the bad feelings, acknowledge, then push away the unhappy thoughts. Create and use a filter system. Don’t bury the bad deep inside you, just choose to acknowledge it and let it go.
  3. Focus on the good things. You can truly choose to ignore the bad things if there is nothing you can do to fix them. If you know you can’t solve a problem, move on. Dwelling on it is counterproductive and terrible for your happiness.
  4. I have learned to shift my mood from negative to positive. If I think negative thoughts, I attract more negative thoughts. But if I choose to think positive thoughts, my entire day turns around for the better. This change is truly a simple choice.
  5. Be grateful for everything that you have, which trust me, is more than you think.
  6. Flexibility – you have to be able to roll with the punches and play along with life sometimes. Be ready to have to adjust.
  7. Structure – keep discipline in your life so that you have a path you can stick to when all else fails
  8. Smile often – a smile is a gift you simultaneously give to yourself and others
  9. Live in the moment, focus on the present. The present is a present.
  10. If the present moment sucks, look forward to the future, or reminisce in wonderful past memories
  11. If someone treats you poorly, 9 times out of 10 it has NOTHING to do with you, and EVERYTHING to do with them, their bad moods, and their stress. So rest assured that their words aren’t even meant for you, it’s just a release of pressure in your direction.
  12. If anyone lashes out at you, step back to ask yourself why they did this. → Just recently in one of the organizations I am involved in, I voiced an opinion about something I thought needed to be changed, and the director blew up at me. I realized that she blew up not because of my comment, but because she was feeling like her hard work wasn’t being appreciated. So instead of getting defensive, lashing out back at her and indulging in her negativity, I took the time to reach out to her and tell her how much I appreciated all that she had done for the group, while still standing my ground and not backing down on my original opinion. This was an amazing way to diffuse the situation and resume positivity.

I can confidently say that happiness is my greatest asset and skill, even if it can’t officially be quantified or measured. Developing happiness in your life is all about the perspective you approach things with. Life can suck, and not everyone is wired to look for the good in things, but I genuinely hope from the bottom of my heart that maybe these words could change at least the smallest part in each of your mentalities to help improve your quality of life.

Thank you so much for reading. xo

∴♥∴

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38 thoughts on “Characteristics of a Positive Person”

  1. Excellent post! Being happy, especially when your life presents you with things you can easily choose to be unhappy about, can be a challenge. But I agree that happiness is a choice and your post is an excellent reminder of that.

    I like your example of stepping back to ask yourself why someone may be lashing out at you. This can be a challenge, but it’s well worth the effort. Often we’re taken by surprise when something like this happens and it’s tempting to respond to the person in a defensive manner rather than taking a moment and seeing there may be a reason this person is acting this way that has little or nothing to do with you. Even if you do react defensively, when cooler heads prevail it’s always possible to act in a way that makes it easier for you and others to focus more on what’s positive.

    I’m enjoying your posts about your trip to Bologna and look forward to more. I particularly like how you write about situations that challenge you, even when some gelato seems like the best way to handle a rough day. I liked the pictures you posted of your beautiful surroundings even though things could have been going better.

    I haven’t read about your major in school yet, if you have one. Are you thinking about using your point of view on healthy perspectives as part of a profession, or more as a personal benefit. Either way, keep up the good work.

    Love and light, Bob

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    1. Thank you for such an amazing comment! I really appreciate you taking so much time to read and think about my posts, so sweet! I’m hoping to double major in Journalism (with a concentration in PR) and Sociology. I have thought about trying to make a career out of Healthy Life Perspectives–like starting a business of sorts. I have thought about certain E-books or products I could make that could help other people incorporate new ideas into their lives as well. However, as of right now, my dream job is to work for TED, perhaps in the production of the TED-ed videos. So maybe this will just be a hobby. We shall see! Thank you so much for reading and commenting, I really appreciate it!

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  2. Well said. Its so easy to get dragged down if we don’t reflect on the situation as you have described it. Thanks for sharing your experience. 😊

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  3. For me, I think doing those jobs can be a pressure so I try to be nice in restaurants and cafes and such. On the other hand, I consider you as heroes for always handling negativities pretty well in the workplace. Keep being positive and thanks for sharing.

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  4. This is awesome 🙂 I’m all about trying to increase my positivity this year–mine, as well as the happiness of those around me. It’s tough when you realize how easy it is to be negative when something bad happens, and just how many times a day you come across a trap for falling into bad moods. Deflecting them and acknowledging your feelings can be tough, it takes practice. But it betters your life in so many ways. It’s very inspiring to read tips from other people on how to better accomplish this. Thanks for posting xx

    -Helene, https://angelspartaness.com/

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  5. Wow, I really feel like I was meant to come across this post. I am always fighting positivity and how to maintain it. In my recent post I was talking about I have a hard time handling all life can throw at me once.. I really think if I took your comment about a “filter system” into account it would really make a difference in my life. I love what you said here, it’s refreshing to see posts other than just makeup– not that there is anything wrong with that, this post was just so relatble!

    xo.

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