3 Examples from my own life
Telling a guy I didn’t want to have a casual relationship
This guy was interested in me, and said he was down for “whatever I was willing to give.” I wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t interested in a casual relationship, and that I wouldn’t have the time to do anything serious since I would only be in town for 3 months. He responded really positively, and said that my honesty made me more attractive!
Telling a guy I just wanted to be friends
I was really nervous to friendzone this guy. I had hung out with him a couple of times but I wasn’t sure if I wanted to move forward into dating him, but I knew he was a great guy who I wanted to have in my life. I was originally going to just not respond to him.. ever.. immature I know. My friend stepped in immediately and taught me that I owed him a response. That I could set the boundaries kindly without ignoring him, and however he responded would show me what kind of a man he was. Lucky for me he was so sweet about it, and now he and I continue to have a great friendship!
Telling a guy I didn’t want to be involved until another girl was out of the picture
This boy is someone I am interested in, but I learned that he was still somewhat involved with a girl that I work with. Originally, he had told me that he wasn’t interested in her because she was a little “crazy.” I was caught off guard when she told me they were still interacting. I texted him in a fun and flirty way to say that I didn’t want anything to start between us until he had worked things out with the other girl. He responded so well, and I am thrilled that I could set my standard and have him learn how to respect it.
Update: He ended things with my coworker and we are all set to go on a date later tonight! 🙂
Standards make people attractive. They teach people how to have respect for you and to take you seriously. They show that you have respect for yourself. I could say much more about this topic because I feel strongly about it, but I figured my real life experiences would be more interesting than my mini-philosophies.
Let me know what you think of these interactions! How do you like to show your standards in work or relationships? Thank you so much for reading!